Allow me to gush unabated for a moment.
This past Saturday, my wife and I went on a roadtrip to Weatherford, Oklahoma of all places, to see Roger Clyne & the Peacemakers play a free show at Southwestern Oklahoma State University. We left Canyon at 7:00 pm and made the 3 hour trip to the Sooner state, arriving shortly after the concert had begun. Walking into the campus Wellness Center gymnasium, I was appalled at the size of the crowd. There couldn’t have been more than 40 people or so, 30 of them being the people that follow the band around from show to show. The few students who were there seemed more concerned with acting like asses and mocking the band than listening to the music. Did the band seem upset? No.
My history with Roger Clyne goes way back. I loved The Refreshments when they first came out in the 90s. When they broke up I was upset, but soon thrilled to find out they had formed a new band. Learning this little tidbit of info led to the greatest road trip in the history of road trips. A trip that took me and three friends to Denver, Colorado where I had the greatest concert experience of my life, one that I doubt very seriously could ever be topped, barring Roger ever shows up and plays a show in my living room. RCPM are an integral part of my favorite memories from college. From sitting on the porch in the freezing cold, drinking beer and talking philosophy while they play in the background, to the aforementioned road trip, Roger was there. Taylor and I even talked to him on the phone once to discuss shooting a documentary about them (which fell through). We were barely able to contain ourselves throughout the conversation. Sadly, I didn’t realize how big a part he had played in my transition to adulthood until he started playing Mekong in that small school gymnasium in Weatherford, Oklahoma. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I got emotional. Tears welled up in my eyes. I couldn’t even sing along to my favorite Roger Clyne song. Memories just kept coming. I wanted Taylor, Chuck, and Matt there. I felt guilty that they were missing out.
Here’s the thing. Roger Clyne is far and away the most gracious rock star I’ve ever witnessed. Was he upset that an entire campus of students skipped his concert to go do whatever it is people do on a Saturday night in Weatherford, Oklahoma? No. He thanked the stupid emo kids for dancing. Was he upset when he asked how many people had never seen them before and 5 people raised their hands? No. He told them to go take a couple of CDs and pay whatever they felt they were worth. After every song he clasped his hands and bowed to thank the crowd for listening and cheering and everytime he did it, I thought they were done for the night. Then they’d play another song and he’d bow and thank the crowd again. I was shocked. Most other musicians would throw a tantrum, bitch at the crowd, and storm off (Ryan Adams, I’m looking in your direction), but not Roger Clyne & the Peacemakers. They had fun. They do it because they love the music and appreciate their fans.
Right before they played Mekong, Roger spoke a couple of lines of the song to the crowd: “If your bottle’s empty, help yourself to mine. Thank you for your time. Here’s to life.” He was sincere and it killed me.
Friends, I want you to know that if your bottle is ever empty, you can help yourself to mine.
Here’s to life.